The nights are LONG….
Having supported several new families with new tiny humans in last few days and weeks (no day off yet over xmas ♥️ and it has been so lovely!) as usual we got talking about the frustrating nights that inevitably become a new families reality (usually the mother’s reality, mostly).
Those nights are LONG. They are lonely often, dark, frustrating and exhausting. We often try to figure out what we are doing wrong to make the tiny new humans as unsettled as they sometimes can be in the night, but the truth is, usually there is absolutely nothing we are doing wrong, and the lengthy feeds, the wanting to be snuggled, and the unwillingness to go to sleep without being in full body contact with mama are simply normal (if challenging) newborn behaviour.
And as usual, I got to thinking: Wouldn’t it be nice if we had a little light on top of our homes that lights up when we are awake with our tiny ones in these long and lonely nights? Maybe it would flash when a tiny one is crying, maybe it would pulse slowly and rhythmically when we are pacing, nursing, rocking. And maybe it would flicker softly when all is about to FINALLY settle down for a sleep?
We could look out over the streets and houses and see the lights reflecting back at us, showing that we are not alone in this, that this is normal, that it will pass.
Perhaps there could be a website where all the lights all over the world could shine in one big map. Signaling universal experience.
I would have found this so reassuring. I mean, it’s completely unfeasable, but it would have made those lonely nights a lot less lonely. Maybe at least simply imagining it can help a tiny bit ♥️